Roses may be red and violets blue but Love is… NOT poetry
My Dad’s wedding gift to us was a simple assignment. Read 1 Corinthians 13. Of course we were both already familiar with this passage, and studied it together during our courtship.
I remember us attempting this whlist in the first days of our newlywed high – with the best intentions, it seemed like the easiest task. Piece. Of. Cake.
But, I can safely say three years later – actually being married takes the words of 1 Cor 13 from “nice ” to NECESSARY!
When I heard this scripture at weddings it sounded “nice”, I would day dream about having this love one day. But now within a marriage I’m learning…
Love is not poetry, though it can be inspiring, beautiful and poetic
Love isn’t a fuzzy feeling
Love usually isn’t getting ‘your way’ by any means
Love doesn’t do the bear minimum
Love goes above and beyond
Love isn’t fleeting and thrill seeking
Love isn’t always social media friendly or retweetable, or likeable
Love has no filter and no hiding place
Love doesn’t play games
Love doesn’t have a plan B
You can’t “fall out of love” because you didn’t “fall” in to it
Love is a choice
Love is usually not the popular choice, but the best choice.
God is Love
God is Love, and if you truly believe this as a Christian it will transform your approach to loving your spouse, a sibling, colleague or stranger.
As I encourage you to (re)visit 1 Corinthians 13 today, I ask – can YOU love like this?
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal.
And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails.
But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.
I Corinthians 13:1-8 NKJV
So… I’ve been feeling sorry for myself lately.
During my primary school years – around age 9 or 10, one of the most anticipated events at the end of the school day was the ice cream man. As my mind shifted from the joy of not being the last one to be let out of the classroom (everything was a competition when I was younger lol), I could hear the chugging ice cream van parked on the other side of the leafy school fence. Most of the time I would have already spent my pocket money for that day on sweets, which I bought whilst making my way to school in the morning – golf ball chewing gums, jaw breaker fire balls, strawberry pencils – the list was endless. On those days I had no choice but to reluctantly walk past the ice cream van, envying the reception kids, who were not old enough to appreciate the flake vanilla ice cream they were allowing to melt all over the sleeves of their school uniform.
Other days I resisted the morning sweet binge in order to buy my double cone, three scoop ice cream with nuts, sprinkles and strawberry sauce on top. I had a very sweet tooth growing up. But on most days, I had done the former and therefore missed out on ice cream after school, so I felt sorry for myself. It’s not fair, if only I was like the kids whose parents picked them up from school, surely I would also enjoy this privilege. The truth is I needed to practice self discipline, sometimes it’s better we don’t get everything we want, when we want – everyday could not be “ice cream man day” because that would be bad for my health and I would also probably take it for granted – it took me a while to learn this.
Some 16 years later, as I analyse my current place in life, I still find myself grumbling “it’s not fair”. Perhaps there are aspects of your life that cause you to do the same. Why isn’t my reality like so and so’s? Why can’t everything be perfect all the time? It got to the point where I started to question God: why did You allow things to be this way? I was throwing the biggest pity party. Then I started thinking about Job and how unfair his whole experience was. Here was a guy who was so “faithful” to God, even offering sacrifices for the potential sins of his children and yet God still allowed the devil to take everything away from him! Surely he didn’t deserve that,
why would our loving, good God do such a thing?
The Holy Spirit led me to the book of Job and directed me to read the last 5 chapters and they completely shut down my pity party. If you are feeling discontent or frustrated with where you are in life or a particular ongoing situation like Job, I would encourage you to read just these five chapters – Job 38 to 42.
The truth is our understanding of “morality”, “justice”, “good” is so warped by our sinful nature that we can never ever rightly question God. Yes you can take your questions to God like I did, but accusing God’s nature and character because you’re uncomfortable with where you are in life right now, only shows how wavering and fickle our faith in Him really is.
My mind went to sessions of praise and worship were I had heartily bellowed the song lyrics of the band Housefires’ “good good Father”. I thought to myself, am I not the same person that passionately sang these words to this same God? Why was I struggling to grasp His goodness now? The truth is God is constantly molding and shaping our faith, so that it is steady, firm and sure.
And not only this, but [with joy] let us exult in our sufferings and rejoice in our hardships, knowing that hardship (distress, pressure, trouble) produces patient endurance; and endurance, proven character (spiritual maturity); and proven character, hope and confident assurance [of eternal salvation].
Our faith in God should not be based solely on how comfortable He has made us, or the fact that we prayed and got what we prayed for, or the latest “good thing” that has happened in our lives. God is calling us to a faith that is based on our reverence and understanding of who He is first and foremost.
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
It isn’t logical, it isn’t transactional, it’s supernatural – it requires the inner work of the Holy Spirit to sustain this kind of faith, but it is possible to believe God simply because He is God – even when you’re in the storm. You’ve heard of child like faith – it’s very simple – young children believe even before they’ve seen the evidence. So things might be really challenging and discouraging for you at the moment, be encouraged things will get better. My prayer is that the Lord will enable us to wait upon Him, our hope will not be disappointed!
I Peter 5:10
But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.
May God enable us to be steadfast in our faith and confidence in Him, so that even in the valleys, the fiery furnace, the oppositions our hope will be firmly planted in Him until He comes to our aid in Jesus name amen.
Peace & Love ❤
Going to university and gaining an academic award, being labelled a “highflyer” by society’s standards, moving through life at the same pace as your peers or even moving ahead of them – doesn’t mean you’re on track.
Are you on track?
It’s a difficult question to answer yes or no. For most of us this question will not fill us with many thoughts of comfort. Perhaps for some of us anxiety, feelings of insecurity and inadequacy may follow. Maybe you’re not sure you are where you’re supposed to be in life. For a few, you may be confident of our status, and feel completely secure. In that case read this post and then share it with some one who needs it more lol. In reading the first Psalm in the Bible, I came across guidelines that can help. Here are…
3 WAYS TO STAY/GET ON TRACK!
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly Psalm 1a
Counsel is important in the life of every human being. The Bible repeatedly lays emphasis on how necessary the right counsel is on our path. (prov 1:5, prov 8:14 , prov 15:22 , prov 19:20)
Someone is counselling you. Whether it’s parents, a mentor, your instagram feed or YouTube subscriptions. As much as the world wants you to believe “you are the master of your fate”, you are infact being led and influenced everyday. The sooner we realise this, the sooner we can put a check on the source of our counsel, to guide us in the right direction.
TWO. Your circle
nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful Psalm 1b
Who is in your circle? Just as it sounds, these are the people that surround you; those you spend the most time with. The Bible warns that your circle also shapes your path in life – be it close friends, colleagues at work, school mates or even your church family. Your circle influences you, consciously or unconciously. My most unstable season in life was when I had the most “friends”. I lost all sense of direction and I was being pulled, enticed and influenced from all angles – by conflicting ways of life. As the saying goes, choose your friends wisely.
THREE. God’s Word
But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. Psalm 1:2
To put it plainly, do you read your Bible? God’s Word is transformative – called the living Word because it literally manifests life in everyone who reads and receives it. God’s Word equips us specifically, for the individual journey He has designed for each of us to embark on.
For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
If you sometimes wonder am I where I’m suppose to be? Check these three things, is anything out of sync? This Psalm explains that those who don’t have these three things in check “are like the chaff which the wind driveth away” – life is happening to them, rather than them living and navigating intentionally through life.
For those who follow these guidelines, God’s Word promises a certain end. This individual’s life is ticking according to God’s divine clock, bringing forth fruits in season (at the right time) and prospering. Please note that God’s timing as His ways are not like our ways, nor our parents ways, or our community’s ways. The ultimate judge of whether you’re “on track” is the Living God who knows the path He has set before you.
Psalm 1:3 & 6
May God in His unfailing mercy, align and keep us planted in His divine plan in Jesus name
Peace & Love ❤
1 Samuel 8: In this chapter we see Israel asking Samuel to give them a king like the other nations of the earth. God reigned over Israel, God appointed prophets and ordained judges, but they wanted one man to have authority over them.
19 Nevertheless the people refused to obey the voice of Samuel; and they said, “No, but we will have a king over us,
20 that we also may be like all the nations, and that our king may judge us and go out before us and fight our battles.”
At times God gives us ‘great’ and we, ourselves turn it down and look for ‘good enough’ – By the world’s standards and by our own standards. A similar occurrence in the garden of Eden, shows how Adam and Eve were given ‘great’, the entire garden of Eden and everything in it, except one tree, free of charge, but they settled for something that appeared ‘good’ for food.
Reflect over your life, and think:
what God-given greatness did I or am I substituting for my own ‘good enough’?
Peace and Love
Good Monday morning 🙂
56 And whithersoever he entered, into villages, or cities, or country, they laid the sick in the streets, and besought him that they might touch if it were but the border of his garment: and as many as touched him were made whole.
– Encountering Christ will make you whole, he is sufficient for you.
Peace and Love