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image: jewlerywise.com

image: jewlerywise.com

It isn’t my relationship that redeemed me.

Some of us have been to terrible, dark places in our lives – paths we blame ourselves for journeying; so that if any man or woman should choose to love us, deep within us we believe there lies our redemption.

“She can be loved”

His proposal tells the world “she can be loved”, and having her by his side makes him ”desirable”. Is it partly because, although we say Christ has redeemed us, we continue to hold ourselves guilty of our past? This is certain, you will never be able to pay for the life you lived, and there is nothing you can do to change your past. But His blood is more powerful, more than capable of helping you to recover from those mistakes and healing your traumas. His blood calls you a new creation. Even if you were the worst of sinners, there is no darkness, no failure, no history that the blood of Jesus cannot overcome and wash away.

“…bought at a much greater price”

Do you long desperately for ”Mister right’‘? Well contrary to the world’s fairytale there is no knight in shining armour who can save you, because the truth is – we all need saving. Maybe you’re already in a relationship? Do you love it when people talk about your relationship? Does it give you a confidence in your self-worth, which you dare not carry alone? The truth is, no  relationship status, no ring can redeem you, because you were bought at a much greater price. Are you able to love and appreciate your worth, the unique value placed in you by God? Or are you still angry and still ashamed? I find I feel more confident since getting engaged, it’s like you carry a stamp on your left hand that says “you’re worth it” (like the L’Orèal ads). But the novelty will soon wear off and then what? Will you seek for the next thing to make you feel redeemed and cleared of your past?

“Woman where are thine accusers?”

Christ is before you asking you, “Woman where are thine accusers?” Think about the woman accused of adultery, even after the accusations ceased why did she remain there, stood before Jesus? Perhaps her greatest condemnation – the one that kept her where her accusers left her, was her own. What have you done wrong? How have you messed up? Whatever it is, I have news for you, you have been redeemed. You don’t have to justify God’s love towards you or His blessings in your life. There is no need to feel ashamed anymore, when the spotlight is on you. They don’t see who you used to be, they don’t see your past sins and struggles, they see God’s glory. They see YOU, redeemed and refined by Christ – because you are. Jesus took your shame to the cross, you have been redeemed and there is no catch, but believe that your redemption is in Christ.

Your redemption is not pegged on your relationship status. When it comes to the matters of your inner-self, your relationship status is irrelevant. Start addressing those memories that try to convince you that you haven’t changed. Read about Paul, he could have carried the shame and guilt of a notorious past, persecuting the church. He would have been justified to seek the approval of the people he was sent to share the Gospel with, but instead he allowed his identity and call in Christ to be the driving force of his life. You can too.

It isn’t my relationship that redeemed me. I was a wreck, and Christ saw me, broken, desperate and tired, and He carried me. Long before my Fiancé noticed me or even knew who I was, long before there was any proposal in sight, Christ began a work of redemption in me. So I encourage you today, to forgive yourself and forgive your past, and begin to learn about your redemption that is everlasting in Christ. As my Pastor often says – “your past is past”, and no man can, no man has redeemed you and no man will, but the living God.

May God help us to believe His unconditional love towards us, may He teach us step out of the shadows of our past and hand over every negative memory and guilt to Him, and may God teach us to truly love ourselves, in Jesus name amen.

Peace & Love

We the Lazarus of Today

Post foundation scriptures John 11 – 12, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Hebrews 4:15 and Psalm 145:18 – 19

I thank God for this day, the 02/11/2012, because I can say with all sincerity that I only just came to realise that I am truly a born again Christian. Yes I often said it, and I knew what it meant to be a born again Christian, sort of, but never have I believed it wholeheartedly as I do today and I pray that henceforth, this revelation and understanding will never leave my mind and spirit and others’ who come to know it in Jesus name. amen.

So I came across this video on the P4CM website and it moved me immensely into writing this blog post, just so the message would be able to reach more people and change more lives. The minister, I believe his name is Chris Davis, dissected the word of God and unpicked it into a massive revelation, and I thank God for doing this through him. His sermon was about the death and resurrection of Lazarus by Christ’s command John chapter 11 and 12–  I won’t go into much detail about this because he explains it more than efficiently. But basically Jesus rose Lazarus from the death and people came from all over to witness the miracle. And I urge everyone who reads this post to click on one of the multiple links to a recording of the sermon.

Our stories are so severe, so filthy and soaked in sin, so fleshy and disgraceful, bringing shame upon who we were, to the point that we can say we were dead, walking corpses. Our sin had killed us, flesh, mind, spirit – the sin we relished in committing,  we pursued, we loved to portray before others, now we hate and fight against because then we were dead, and we now live through the merciful grace of our Lord and saviour Jesus Christ. We are therefore living testimonies of Christ’s grace. Every breath that we take is a testimony of God’s mercy and love and how Christ made it possible for the dead to rise and to be born again.

That is why he told us to rejoice in our weaknesses,

‘He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Most gladly therefore I will rather glory in my weaknesses, that the power of Christ may rest on me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in weaknesses, in injuries, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.’ 2 Corinthians 12:9 (WEB)

because they glorify God and anger the devil. He has promised not to leave us in our time of need Psalms 145:18 – 19, so every trial, every obstacle is just an opportunity for God to show his glory through our deliverance. That is not to say that we should sin carelessly, and dwell in our wickedness, but to know that whenever the devil is tempting us, the glory of God is near, and we have been given the strength to overcome through Christ Jesus . If sin is hidden and not confronted it glorifies the devil, but once the light is shed upon it and it is revealed, it glorifies God because it will not, should not remain in the state it was, thus depicting God’s transforming power in our lives.

Think about it like this; Wow Damilola has a blog about Christian dating, Who which Damilola? The one that slept with him, him and him? The one that used to drink like a fish and still manage to stand up relatively straight, the one that you’d find on the dance floor at every rave, She is writing a blog about Christian dating? I don’t believe you. I have to see this for myself…

So as said in the sermon I was listening to on P4CM.com titled  ‘unbelievable work of Christ –are people coming to meet Jesus because of the work he’s done and [is] doing in your life, and if you never said another single word does your life speak about what Jesus has done to you and in you?” This is my new approach to life, to glorify God in my living everyday, even at the expense of my pride and lustful desires. “Our focus should not be on being pietist, dutiful, but rather a demonstration, a work of Jesus’ transforming power and glory.” I’d spent so much time being disgusted with myself, feeling ashamed and trapped in desperation and self-pity, that I didn’t even realise when God had delivered me out of the devil’s hands. We will always be sinners, this I am still coming to terms with, but where I was and where I am even today, still far from where I will be, is a manifestation of God’s grace and his love.

‘For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. 16 Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.’ Hebrew 4:15 – 16 (NCV)

I truly believe, not necessarily because of this blog or the fact that I am more conscious of what is right and what is wrong, but because of where I’ve come from, my weaknesses, I know I am now being born again through Christ’ salvation. It frightens me to now know that God thought my life valuable enough to include himself in it and save me from death, I feel like I owe him so much and how better to show this than by living a life which makes others aware of the free gift of salvation through Christ’s death and resurrection. “I’m a walking biblical miracle”  – therefore continue to be a walking testimony, a walking manifestation of Jesus Christ’s saving grace. All that is not glorifying God, needs to be reborn, reformed, renewed by Christ’s blood.

And can I just mention that we really need to enjoy our time as single Christians, because I know if I was in a relationship right now, one this blog would not exist and two, I wouldn’t be so interested in the word of God – too busy chasing ‘my man’. So I just want to thank God for my singleness, though I may get lonely at times, it’s really saving my life and changing my perspective on life. Remember when life isn’t necessarily bad, but just not what you want despite your prayers, trust God, he has a plan. amen.